Twice born – it’s the best life

Whilst I was a contributing writer to the American magazine Personal Excellence I came across the work of another contributor to the magazine whose work has inspired and influenced over the years. If you have not read “An Invented Life” by Warren Bennis – go out a purchase a copy!
I have lost count the number of times I have shared the following quotation with clients which I found in his book.
“What I’m talking about is self-invention. Imagination. That’s basically how we get to know ourselves. People who cannot invent and reinvent themselves must be content with borrowed postures, secondhand ideas, fitting in instead of standing out. Inventing oneself is the opposite of accepting the roles we were brought up to play.
It’s much like the distinction I made in my last book, On Becoming a Leader, between “once-borns” and “Twice-borns.” The once-born’s transition from home and family to independence is relatively easy. Twice-borns generally suffer as they grow up; they feel different, even isolated. Unsatisfied with life as it is, they write new lives for themselves. I’m one of those twice-born.
I believe in self-invention, have to believe in it, for reasons that will soon enough be clear. To be authentic is literally to be your own author (the words derive from the same Greek root), to discover your native energies and desires, and then to find your own way of acting on them. When you’ve done that, you are not existing simply to live up to an image posited by the culture, family tradition, or some other authority. When you write your own life, you have played the game that was natural for you to play. You have kept covenant with your own promise.”
So why not emerge from your cocoon to be the magnificent butterfly you are destined to become?

Book endorsed by Pam Rhodes

The newly launched edition of How To Get What Money Can’t Buy: Personal Peace And Happiness In A World Of Unrest not only has a new cover but has been endorsed by Pam Rhodes who is the well known presenter of the BBC television series Songs of Praise.

Pam RhodesPam writes: What I love about this book is the way in which John draws on the wisdom of the past in order to inform and inspire us as we face the challenges in our lives today. I have long been an admirer of the inspiration and humanity we find in hymn texts written down through the centuries, because the human condition never really changes. When John Greenleaf Whittier, an American Quaker and poet during the 19th Century, wrote in that much-loved hymn Dear Lord and Father of Mankind about ‘the still small voice of calm’, he was pinpointing exactly the need for inner peace and a soul-deep connection with God that John Clements describes in this book. When the blind Gospel writer Fanny Crosby wrote how she felt ‘free from my doubts and fears’ because she was Safe in the Arms of Jesus, she was recognising the same reassuring answer to fear and anxiety which John also describes here. We are gently guided to an understanding of timeless truths and God’s unconditional love, both of which are a welcome balm to help us cope with our own everyday problems.

I love good books

Good books, like good friends, are few and chosen; the more select the more enjoyable; and like these are approached with diffidence, nor sought too familiarly nor too often, having the precedence only when friends tire.

The most mannerly of companions, accessible at all times, in all moods, they frankly declare the author’s mind, without giving offense. Like living friends they too have their voice and physiognomies, and their company is prized as old acquaintances.

We seek them in our need of counsel or amusement, without impertinence or apology, sure of having our claims allowed…What were days without such fellowship? We were alone in the world without it…

Next to a friend’s discourse, no morsel is more delecious than a ripe book, a book whose flavour is as refreshing at the thousandth testing as at the first. Books when friends weary, conversation flags, or nature fails to inspire.  – Amos B, Alcott

Excellence Becomes YOU! (New Book Coming Soon!)

Excellence Becomes you book cover by john clements

“Excellence Becomes YOU! Proven Principles To Raise Your Life From Medicority To Excellence”

Is the latest book by author John Clements. Hopefully this will be available to buy shortly – just waiting to recieve endorsements. This is a book paced with down to earth wisdom and contains many memorable short stories. At the moment the manuscript has only been read by a limited number of people but the feedback from them has been most encouraging.

A life in your life

Are you getting the best out of life?

Demands made by today’s world may exhaust the toughest personality. Events in the Middle East bring an added dimension of anxiety – the most common cause of unhappiness.

Do you have a sense of apprenhension – maybe alarm – which may give rise to nerve depletion, even heart palpitation? The “Greens” are not the only ones who are concerned about what is happening on the earth.

Our fears, rational, or irrational, sudeen or long-standing, may be real. Some people are afraid to leave home, others can’t cope with the hassle of the supermarket. How is it possible to find courage to face life with a resilient spirit and calm determination?

There are many answers. Here’s one from St Francis de Sales, who wrote:

“Do not fear what may happen tomorrow…The same loving Father who cares for you today, will care for you tomorrow and every day…Either He will shield you from suffering or He will give you unfailing strength to bear it…Be at peace, then, and put aside all anxious thoughts and inagined fears.”

Why not start each day with an Affirmation? I love quotes especially from the Bible. I reapeat it to myself at odd moments and expect my mind to become more positive, to expect greater serenity and a sense of well-being. To tap resources of patience, faith, peace, strenght and wisdom that are handed down through the ages by saints and sages. I expect to enjoy a better quality of life from this day onwards.